Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help

Posted at: 01/02/2014 9:56 AM
By: Joan Lucas

One of the first things your family and friends will ask after your cancer diagnosis is how they can help. While it may feel overwhelming at first, you should know that it is a wonderful thing when friends and family are making an effort to support you.

To deal with these questions, it can help if you make a list of tasks you can give people who ask. This helps them feel like they are able to care for you and it can help you when you feel too fatigued to deal with mundane tasks like laundry and carpools.

Such a list can include: child care for a few hours (even if you don’t go anywhere), errands, offering a listening ear, a home-cooked meal that you can heat up on days you aren’t up to cooking, or even attending appointments with you as someone who can take notes and help ask questions if you get too overwhelmed with information.

While it helps you to have a network of people who want to be there for you, it is normal to feel like taking these calls and asking for help is too much on some days. You can consider asking a trusted friend or relative to designate these tasks on your behalf and to arrange visits and phone calls for you. You can set limits on when you will accept visits and calls, bearing in mind that you require rest to get better.

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