Ask Jennifer: Week ending...

Posted at: 01/04/2010 9:04 AM
Updated at: 12/01/2014 9:26 AM

Dear Jennifer,

I am turn 90 this month and I want to write about what aging means to me. It means I feel just the same as I did when I was 40. That is, until I catch my reflection and I wonder who in the world that old lady is who’s looking back at me. So the world sees this old woman but it isn’t quite real. I wash my own windows inside and out. And I rake my leaves and shovel my driveway. I take care of everything in my house. And I still drive and I volunteer at the hospital once a week at the gift shop. I’m writing because most people think I’m too old for much of anything. In January I’m supposed to get my hip replaced. I’m scared out of my skin to be treated like I don’t matter. I’ve seen that look on people’s faces. Like I’m invisible. It’s awful. I just wanted to say my piece. Makes me feel a bit better. Thanks for listening.
Sincerely Yours,

Dear Anna,

Good for you. I believe age is a matter of health and attitude. You are lucky to be healthy in mind and spirit by the sounds of things. And you represent a significant percent of our citizens 80 or older. You will be wise to have and advocate with you at the hospital. This could be a trusted family member, friend or a professional. I am quite confident that when the hospital team meets you, you will advocate for yourself, however it is wise to have someone else as well. Thank you for writing Anna, your letter was a joy. I am confident your surgery will go well.