Posted at: 01/04/2010 9:04 AM
Updated at: 12/04/2013 7:27 AM
My pain in the neck sister keeps sticking her nose into my mother’s life and messing everything up. She went to the doctor with my mother and was escorted out with security because she was yelling at the doctor. She goes to my mother’s house for dinner every night and I think my mother gives her money which my sister spends on cigarettes and her no good boyfriend. I have talked to my mother about moving out to an assisted living place. I get my mother to agree and then my sister comes over and undoes the whole thing. My mother is going to run out of money and she’s 88 years old. What rights to I have? I can’t afford a lawyer and I hope you can help.
First, your mother needs to be safe. If you are worried that your sister is abusing her by interfering with the delivery of her medical care, or taking money your mother needs for her day to day life (not her savings) then you certainly should call the authorities at Monroe County Adult Protective Services at 753-6532.
I don’t have enough information about your mother’s cognitive situation to understand her ability to make her own decisions; her age is not significant to this most important factor. Your mother is able to gift her money any way she chooses as long as it does not interfere with her ability to purchase her medication or groceries and bills to maintain her housing.
You mention that you would like to have her move to an Assisted Living Community. See this week’s article.
And last, I do not provide any legal service. I recommend that you contact either of the following, they both offer free legal services on civil matters if your mother qualifies: Legal Aid Society (585-232-4090) or Monroe County Legal Assistance Center (585-325-2520)
Contact my office if your mom needs more assistance.