Ask Jennifer: Week ending...

Posted at: 01/04/2010 9:04 AM
Updated at: 11/03/2014 10:53 AM

Dear Jennifer,

I miss my husband at the breakfast table and sitting with me to watch our shows. I miss the silly things he always said. I am writing because I want to thank everyone who helps my husband at the nursing home. It is a relief to both of us to have such caring wonderful people in our lives. My husband is part of the men’s club at the home and he’s the Resident Council Representative. Everyone calls him the mayor of his unit. The nurses welcome me like family. It’s been a big adjustment, but they are taking care of my Frank better than I could at home. My girlfriends thought I was horrid to have “put him in a home.” When they came to visit, they were pleasantly surprised. I want to go on record: a good nursing home is a blessing.

Shirley Jane

Dear Shirley Jane,

Thank you for writing. I feel the same way. My mother used to say, “You get what you make of things.” It is so helpful to accept and adapt. You and your husband have mastered this beautifully; it isn’t to say it’s easy. It isn’t. Admittedly there are families who have experienced difficulties from minor to major in nursing homes. Thank you for writing to remind us of how beautiful it is when everything comes together.