Ask Jennifer: Week ending 3/15

Posted at: 07/18/2008 3:32 PM
Updated at: 02/20/2015 10:24 AM

Dear Jennifer,

My mother is pretty well set financially, but she doesn’t want to go out anywhere because she doesn’t want to spend any money. I keep telling her that if she doesn’t use it now, when will she use it? She tells me she is saving it for a rainy day. So, she stays home. She knits and reads and watches television and makes phone calls, but I cannot get her out of that house unless it is to come my way for dinner. Her girlfriends have called me because they want her to step out too. Is there anything we can do about this?

Thank you
Please Don’t Use My Name

Dear Worried Daughter,

Your mom lived through the Great Depression. She saw firsthand what it is like to suddenly find yourself unable to make ends meet.  This has left a permanent impression on the minds of many older adults.  Your mother doesn’t sound particularly depressed, as she is filling her days with her usual activities. Will she go out if the activity is free? There are many things to do around our area that are free.  I assume she is going to doctor’s appointments and grocery shopping etc. (If there is a hesitation to go anywhere, this must be discussed with her doctor.)
Possibly, she my like going out if she realizes she is getting a discount or a free cup of coffee. In that regard, I have put together a list of some of the discount options around town.  The important thing is to ask for a discount everywhere you go – don’t miss out! If she likes shopping with coupons, she just might like getting a little something off when she goes out.

Good luck to you. Let me know if this works.